Roots and All

Today is ‘r u ok?’ day. Its the day where people are encouraged to ask others how they are and hopefully give them the help they need to prevent suicide.

It’s the day where people will share r u ok memes on Facebook and Instagram. Where they will tweet ‘r u ok?’ Some will do it because its expected. Some will do it because they genuinely care. It is so important to seek help, even if you think no one can help you. Dont be afraid. It’s never too late.
Trees (yep I’m using that analogy again). We see the beauty above the ground. We dont see what is underneath. The roots seek nourishment. They grow to where the nutrients are in the soil. They are the foundation. If the roots are strong, the tree is strong. Sometimes the tree needs a little help. Sometimes the tree needs a gardener to come along and tend to the tree. To give it nutrients. To water the tree. To help it to grow.
We are all like trees. We see the beauty above the ground. But you can’t see what’s underneath, the roots are hidden. Our minds are our roots. Sometimes we need help. Sometimes we need someone to help tend to us. To provide us with a little extra care to help us become stronger. to help us grow.
Asking for help does not make us weak. Really it is a sign of strength. To admit that something is wrong. It is not failure. It is not something to be ashamed of. It cannot be suppressed. It cannot be ignored. Ignoring our mental health creates a bigger problem.
I held in for a long time what was inside my head. I didnt let anyone see. I didnt want people to find out. I thought it would go away, that I could handle it myself. If I spoke to anyone I thought they would see me as weak. But it all got too much. CRPS treatment is multidiciplinary. As part of this treatment with the pain clinic I had to see a psychologist. I am so thankful. They understood CRPS and they knew I was not ok. I couldn’t hide from them. They taught me that it was ok to feel the way I did. That I did not need to be ashamed. I didn’t have to hide anymore.
We need to talk. We need to admit that we are not ok. The only way to show others that it is ok, is to speak out. Bring mental health issues out of the shadows and into the light. We have to help those that are still trapped in their darkness. If you ask someone if they are ok, be prepared for them to say no. Be prepared to listen. Be prepared to help them to seek professional help. Don’t just ask someone if they are ok for the sake of it, because they will lie. Because they will hide from the truth. If you know that someone is not ok, check on them. Talk to them. Help them understand that they do not need to hide from what is happening and they need to speak to someone.
Speak out before it’s really too late. Speak out before your life is cut short. No one deserves to feel like their life is not worth living. No one deserves to feel like they are alone. You are not alone. There is help out there, you just need to ask. It’s time to be brave, even if you do not feel brave. Take that first step. It’s scary, I’m not going to lie. But its worth it. Your life depends on it.

#CRPS #complexregionalpainsyndrome #anxiety #depression #breakingthestigma #ruok #speakout #askforhelp #strength

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